In keeping with the last few blog posts, one of the most (usually) misleading responses to "How are you?" is "I'm fine."
90% of the time when we say "I'm fine" we really mean we are anything but fine and we don't want to talk about it. I heard a song on the radio about a month or so ago that, strangely, touched on just that. It is a song by a Christian artist, but it still seems very relevant to not only many of the people I have worked with over the last several years but to people in general, sometimes myself too.
AA and other recovery group like their sayings. In AA, fine stands for Fouled-up, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional - meaning that is how we feel when we say we're fine. Also, I have heard many recovering people encourage others "Don't 'fine' yourself to death." We think our feelings are going to kill us sometimes but they won't; using substances just might.
The link to the song's music video is here. There is tremendous power in the truth.
Matthew West - Truth Be Told (Official Music Video) - YouTube
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